A couple of days ago, one of the many new internet famous vloggers, also known as “youtubers”, Connor Franta (My personal favorite, but that’s besides the point) posted his coming out video. Even in what seems as a time when society is more accepting of LGBT community than it ever was, Connor shows that even though he leads a life where in some respects he preaches being honest about yourself and accepting of others, many still feel that coming out for who you are is still not as accepted as it should be.
Fighting back tears, Connor talks about how he regrets having to live 22 years of his life in denial of the person that he really is. Being afraid of what others think, and if society will accept you is what most people fear when they consider coming out. And people shouldn’t fear coming out. Being honest about who you is not for other people’s benefit. Being honest about yourself is only for you. At the same time, I have to admit that people should in some aspects fear coming out. Yes, it is 100% for the better, and there is not a single better choice that someone could make. But you will always find people who will judge you and discriminate against you because you want to be who you are. To this day, corporations like Chick-fil-A publicly announce that they don’t support homosexuality. My response to that? I have no response. I will lead my life the way that makes me happy. My choices have nothing to do with other people, and just because other people like to overstep their boundaries and push their opinions on me, doesn’t mean I will do the same.
Which brings me to the main thing that I wanted to say, and that is that I’m gay. Surprisingly, this is also my “coming out” video. I have never told anyone that I was gay. I also never even thought about saying it to other people. I’m not ready to announce it in front of all of my friends. I know that they won’t judge me, and they will all like me exactly as much as they like me now. But for anyone who is in the same situation as me, you know that even though you know nothing bad will happen when you do admit it, you’re still scared to death to actually do it.
I hope some of my friends actually do see this. Maybe it will be easier for me if they just find out. But most of them will never see this. That doesn’t mean that I will continue to stay “in the closet”. I don’t have to announce it on social media and tell everyone, but if someone comes up and asks me “Are you gay?”, I’m not going to say “Phhh, no” anymore. I’m going to look straight into their eyes and say “yeah”. The only thing that could happen after that is that person either accepts me for who I am, or doesn’t. And if they don’t, I’m going to be glad that they aren’t in my life anymore.
People, don’t be afraid of accepting who you are. Unexplainable level of respect to Connor for outright telling everyone on the internet who he truly is. But not all of us are ready to announce it on such a level. Accept who you are first, and then tell those people who are willing to listen. There will always be someone 🙂
Share this post with someone who needs it. The courage comes from seeing other people succeed. Trust me.